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Great Quotes by Margie Warrell: Stop Playing Safe

Great Quotes by Margie Warrell: Stop Playing Safe

I’m halfway through Margie Warrell’s newest book Stop Playing Safe and I can’t put it down! A must read. I have captured my favourite quotes so far:

“Reliability can be divided into two core components, each of which can impact on your reputation and undermine your credibility. It’s about doing what you say you will do when you sway you will do it, in the way you committed to doing it.”

“Your integrity is worth more than your position. Your reputation is worth more than your pay cheque.”

“Failing to make a firm commitment to living with integrity, doing what’s right, and being a person truly worthy of other people’s trust doesn’t just limit your success, it undermines your health and sabotages your happiness.”

 

“Behave as the person you aspire to become.”

 

“Action is the most potent antidote to fear. By doing it the things you think you can’t do, you realize how much more you can do.”

 

“The only way out is through.”

 

“True courage is really about connecting with what you fear and stepping forward bravely despite it, however nervous you may feel.”

 

“The Hebrew word yirah means both ‘to fear’ and ‘to see’. Yirah teaches that the essential choice of life is to open your eyes to available opportunities, and to fear the consequences of avoiding that reality.”

 

“All that matters in your ability to identify fear before it takes a grip on you can you can see it is for what it is. Naming fear creates a distance and enables you to be more objectives, and helps to separate the voices of fear in your head from who you actually are.”

 

“People’s fears are fashioned out of the ways in which they perceive the world around them.” [citing Ernest Becker]

 

“Courage is a muscle that grows stronger with use. Every time you step out of your comfort zone you build your tolerance for risk, and your confidence to handle more of it.”

 

“You sharpen and shape your courage skills every time you intentionally choose to step beyond what’s comfortable, put yourself at risk and bravely render yourself vulnerable to something you fear.”

 

“Embracing risk is key to succeeding in the bigger game of life. Those who lose aren’t those who have dared greatly and fallen short of the mark. They are those who played so safe they never lived at all.”

 

“Courage is not the absence of fear or doubt or misgivings, but action in their presence.”

 

“…it’s about being willing to stick your neck out when the situation calls for it and exposing yourself to becoming vulnerable to the things that scare you. As Nelson Mandela once said, ‘The brave man is not he who does not feel afraid, but he who conquers that fear’.”

 

“People who have no sense of where they want to go often end up in places they don’t much want to be.”

 

“Aristotle said finding one’s purpose is merely a matter of knowing where one’s talents and the needs of the world intersect. Finding that intersection should be your utmost priority.”

 

“The word ‘inspire’ comes from the Latin inspirare, which means ‘to breathe life or spirit into’. so when you think about something that really lights you up, you will feel a sense of ‘new life’ awakening within you.”

 

“Dare to work each day as though what you do makes a difference. It does.”

 

“Put any doubts or cynicism to the side for a moment and give your heart and mind the opportunity to explore the possibility that there are things you – and only you – can do on this earth, and that if you don’t do them, no-one else will (or at least not in the same way you would).”

 

“What you do with your time and talents each day matters. How you do it matters even more.

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Guest Blogger Paul Coulombe Post #3: So what is the point of mindfulness? What is the benefit (to leaders and everyone else)?

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So what is the point of mindfulness?  What is the benefit?

Presence! When we live our life with more awareness, we live in a more grounded peace despite what is happening around us. In fact awareness = presence.  It’s the same substrate from which to “be”.  Reacting turns to responding.  Habit turns into choice.

A helpful analogy is driving our car.  It’s okay that the car leans slightly right or left as no alignment or road is perfect.  Left unattended, however, the car would eventually head toward the ditch; each car will tend to do that in its own way.  Same with us! When driving in real life, we gently monitor it and correct and pull it back to center.

Mindfulness is similar…but only sort of, in that we monitor ourselves and rather than pulling and fixing (like the steering wheel), we only monitor and let go. More accurately we monitor and do nothing…and a letting go occurs (without our help) and we slide gently back to center, as if by default.  Truthfully, it is difficult to articulate or write about, it can really be only experienced.  So we don’t unhook but rather unhook our awareness.   How?  Indeed a transformation occurs that is counter-intuitive, counter to our intellect, and counter to our understanding.

Think of mindfulness as a practice, or set up where we are responsible for (inputs), that then allow an inner space to form so that the un-attaching (output) can then occur by itself. A transformation occurs but we are not “controlling” it. We can’t.  And that’s okay.  We don’t need to.

“Being” and being present is just like being in the center – it’s already here - already who we are, already our natural state, until our noisy mind distracts us with its self-serving fictions and addictions. We don’t chase or create that presence…that is the good news…we become aware of it. When we let go of things that stop it, we bathe in it.

 

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Recognition Matters

Sarah McVanel:

This advice is great: “When you are considering an employer – even your current one – be sure to take into account the culture of reward and recognition. Working for an ungrateful employer, or with an unethical colleague, is a sad way to turn work you love into a chore.” Thanks for the post!

Originally posted on Figuring Out Fulfillment:

A person should not take credit for someone else’s work – though in rare cases, it might be okay to borrow it for a while. This worked to the unwitting advantage of Sylvester Stallone when he was struggling to get his first lead role in a motion picture. It was 1975, and Stallone had received some favorable attention for his role the previous year in The Lords of Flatbush, a movie about a Brooklyn street gang in the 1950s. His performance had brought him to the notice of producers Robert Chartoff and Irwin Winkler. They met with Stallone, liked him personally, and were intrigued when he told them he had an idea for a boxing movie. After they read the script Stallone wrote for Rocky, they agreed to try to produce the movie with him in the starring role.

However, they still had to get the go-ahead –…

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Guest Blogger Paul Coulombe Post #2: Can we stop judgment without being mindful?

Whatever the present moment contains, accept it as if you had chosen it. Always work with it, not against it.

Eckhart Tolle

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Can we stop judgment without being mindful?Image

Perhaps superficially depending on our circumstances and moods but mindfulness helps reduce it despite those or in any situation. Why is it so hard then to stop judging (thinking, worrying) if it’s so damaging to ourselves and others? Even when we know that and wish to change? One reason is that if we attempt to change solely on the level of the mind or intellect, a quagmire might form…in that…  “what part of the mind claims authority over the other part?” Especially if our ego or identity is wrapped up in our judgments…it will certainly not want to let go…why would it? So thus an internal fight will start.

Now enter the power of presence. (A different form of power for lack of a better word – it’s not about power at all really)  Even all this…the ego…the struggle…the beliefs…the triggering history of that person or situation…the pulling energy towards or away…the drama…all can indeed be spotted and watched by your awareness.  The awareness does not take sides – it sees all. It’s like our little internal Switzerland and when we let things go we give them over to that warm, neutral space inside us that is of love and kindness (love without an opposite) and things loosen and dissipate into that space of awareness without the need of our meddling and fixing thoughts that often make it worse.

We accept whatever arises we do absolutely nothing about it. Later we can choose to take action but this action is not necessarily reactive and bitter, it is healthy action from a centered place of awareness, not drama or story.  We take our cues from the spirit- the “beingness”, and not the mind like we have always done.  The mind becomes to tool to carryout things and make stuff happen, and its new master is awareness.

 

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10 things I’ve learnt about strengths-based community engagement

Sarah McVanel:

I like this post as it reinforces the importance of leaders leveraging their strengths to reach beyond the walls of their organization (community engagement). The author of this blog post reinforces the strengths-based way to support meaningful community involvement. A thought-provoking read…

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Strengths-based community engagement recognises that communities have many strengths that can help achieve a wide range of objectives. The following are 10 things I’ve learned from doing strengths-based community engagement in a variety of contexts. They aren’t commandments or principles, just things I’ve learned.

There are numerous resources about strengths-based community development (e.g., What is asset-based community-driven development?) but not all community engagement focuses on community development. You will probably notice that there is still an element of community building in the list, because I believe that it is important that our approach to community engagement should contribute to community well-being.

1.     Build on individual and community strengths

The strengths perspective focuses on strengths and aspirations rather than problems and deficits. This isn’t to say we ignore problems and needs, but the way we respond to them is by building on what is already working. If we see…

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Guest Blogger Paul Coulombe Post #1: The Three Key Elements of Mindfulness (and why leaders need to practice them)

 

Image“We must be willing to look at a thing until it has no power over us. “

“If we don’t transform our pain, it will be transmitted in some form.”

           Unknown author

Paul Coulombe Guest blogger Paul Coulombe on the Three Key Elements of Mindfulness

This article is on the introduction to mindfulness…to come is an additional article for mindfulness in the workplace and an article about living mindfully in relationships.

I personally have been practicing mindfulness for 3 years. Writing and speaking about it as it has enriched my life in many ways.  I have felt myself become more patient, loving and centered while at the same time more focused, efficient and calm, even in  stressful situations.

First – let’s define what I mean when I refer to mindfulness.

The clearest definition of mindfulness I can find is the one coined by Jon Kabat-Zinn:

“Mindfulness means paying attention in a particular way; on purpose in the present moment, and non-judgmentally.

The actual term “mindfulness’ is somewhat of a misnomer – and might imply to further engage the mind or focus more on the intellect but that is quite the opposite.  If you like you can substitute awareness when you see the word as that is actually more reflective of what we are doing. I often use them interchangeably.

Let’s examine the three main elements of mindfulness based on the definition and then talk about why it is so healthy to practice. Continue reading